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I recently wrote a blog post for Solutions of North Texas about steps 6 and 7 and how critical they are for anyone who wants long-term sobriety.
The most pain I’ve ever felt in sobriety was from not working these steps.
Here’s a little snippet of the article, but you can read the entire post here.
Step 6: Were entirely ready to have god remove all these defects of character.
Step 7: Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.
Chapters 6 and 7 in the 12 and 12 have a line about how steps 6 and 7 separate the men from the boys.
In my experience, these two steps separate the living from the dead.
I once had an old sponsor who told me after a 5th step that I had also just done steps 6 and 7. I didn’t understand what he meant, but in a few months, my character defects led me directly to a relapse.
I’ve wondered for a long time if it would make a difference had he told me about these chapters in the 12 and 12. Looking back, I don’t think it would have–my character defects were not something I wanted to look at then.
They were all over the place, these defects. I was acting out sexually. I was lying to and cheating on my girlfriend. I was unwilling to help people or sponsor people. I didn’t care who I hurt or how I hurt them.
These character defects led me directly to a relapse where I was mixing drugs together that you should never ever combine. My life was in danger pretty much 24/7. I had several overdoses during this time. I’m lucky that relapse didn’t take me out.
That was 9 years ago. When I got sober after that, I was terrified of my character defects.