If you found this blog post, congratulations–you’ve beaten Google (who very much doesn’t want you to see it).
Google doesn’t like that this post was so popular despite not being written by a doctor. Google thinks you’re a dumbass, that you should only listen to overpaid rich people who have never felt depressed for a moment in their entire lives, and that you should pay money to do so.
Google doesn’t think you should be allowed to commisserate with others who also see that the world is kind of shit, and that the way you feel may not be a disease at all, but rather a normal, necessary reaction to the horrific world run by psychopaths that we all live in.
And so, Google has stopped serving this blog post as much as it can–I don’t know why it doesn’t just delist it, frankly. But here you are. Somehow, you found me instead of the inane suicide helpline Google blindly shows everyone who’s depressed (that, by the way, is so underfunded a lot of those calls are just dropped–good job everyone).
Well, fuck ’em anyway. The world is burning to the ground. I don’t think it matters much anyway. Enjoy this shit post–it won’t be around much longer anyway.
And if anyone from Google is reading this, please do me a favor and go fuck yourself.
“I don’t want to exist,” is so much different from “I want to die,” and actually being suicidal, but normal people… well, they’ll just never get it.
Depression is a bitch, and I’ve suffered from it my whole life.
It’s hard to explain to someone who’s never suffered from it. It’s hard to explain the difference between being depressed and being suicidal.
It’s even harder to explain clinical depression (major depressive disorder) to someone who has experienced situational depression (like how you feel after losing a loved one or a job).
This can be even more difficult when you’re dealing with someone who has been depressed while drinking or getting high, only to suddenly have the depression lifted once they get sober.
There’s a huge difference between wanting to die, wanting to kill myself, and just wanting to not exist. In my experience, these are different levels of depression.
Thankfully, I’ve found freedom from depression through medication. The 12 Steps are nice and all, and they keep me sober, but I suffered from deep depression and suicidal thoughts since I was a child—this is clinical depression that only medication can address (usually).
The lowest level (which is still a completely miserable way to feel) is not wanting to exist.
I Just Don’t Want to Exist
The first level of depression has nothing to do with actually dying. It’s not wishing for death.
It’s wishing for the pain to stop.
And every day, the pain goes away for a short amount of time—when we’re asleep.
Unconsciousness is bliss to someone who finds the waking world miserable. It’s a lack of existence, especially if you don’t dream.
Just because I don’t want to exist doesn’t mean I actually want to die. It usually means (even if I don’t know it) that I just don’t want to exist the way I’m existing right now.
For someone with clinical depression, life can look good or bad on the outside, but it doesn’t matter what life looks like—inside, we are deeply sad.
There’s no reason for it other than some dumbass neurotransmitters in our skulls doing shit they shouldn’t be doing.
This is why you see many successful people commit suicide despite having lives most of us dream of.
People like Philip Seymour Hoffman and Chester Bennington had lives many people would literally kill for, and yet they killed themselves.
Why?
Because exterior circumstances cannot fix the little molecules in my brain that won’t act right.
To fix this, many of us will self-medicate, which rarely actually fixes the problem.
Incidentally, drinking to blackout or shooting opiates until you pass out is another form of non-existence that has nothing to do with death.
That’s one reason drugs like these can be so enticing to someone with clinical depression, though often that just makes things worse.
When you feel this way, it doesn’t matter what your life actually looks like, but death doesn’t necessarily seem like the answer, or even something you’d want.
I’ve talked to many people who just didn’t want to exist because the pain was too intense, but who would never kill themselves for a variety of reasons.
For many, they loved their family and friends, and they would never want to leave them. They would never want to actually die.
They really didn’t want to feel the way they were feeling right now. They wanted to escape existence. They wanted to feel better, and since that wasn’t happening, they wanted to escape the pain.
This is part of the reason I would sleep for 12+ hours a day in my depression. I just didn’t want to be in the world, just like someone with chronic pain only wants the pain to go away.
They might commit suicide because the pain won’t go away, but if the pain actually stopped, they’d be happy to live.
I’ve been deeply depressed in sobriety and still very much wanted to live, but I’d lose myself in activities that let me escape the world, whether that be work, hobbies, writing, TV, or video games—all forms of escape, which is to say, forms of getting out of my head and forgetting my own existence.
What’s much different is actually wanting to die.
I Want to Die
Wanting to die is a lot different from wanting to not exist.
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The difference is that I don’t care if the pain stops or not—I still don’t want to be alive.
This is a deeper level of despair where I see nothing good in my life, and I don’t see any way for things to ever get better except through death.
Now this is different from actually being suicidal. Being suicidal means I want to cause my death.
Wanting to die usually means I’m just praying for death to happen to me through no fault of my own.
Remember when I said many people who don’t want to exist still love their families and friends? This is often one of the reasons people who want to die haven’t gotten to the stage of being suicidal yet.
When I wanted to die but wasn’t yet suicidal, I would pray for things like plane crashes that happened to hit my house. I would hope a drunk driver would hit me. I would wish for death to come to me somehow so that I could leave this world without hurting those I love.
Now what if the depression were lifted? Would I still want to die? The answer is probably yes—life was shitty for me for a long time, and I didn’t see any point in trying to stay alive.
I was convinced by 25 that my life was permanently ruined. It wouldn’t matter if I was happy because I had no job, lots of legal issues, lived with my parents, and generally had a life that looked permanently bad.
Did I want to actually take my own life? Not at that time.
But I did a year before that.
I Want to Kill Myself
This is what most people think of as depression—they think the person wants to kill themself, and that’s rarely the case.
However, this is (obviously) common. Around 40,000 people kill themselves each year in the US alone.
When I was 24, I had gotten multiple DUIs, and life not only seemed hopeless, but it seemed like something I needed to get out of ASAP.
I was suicidal, which means I was actively seeking ways to kill myself.
I’m a coward, which means I was trying to find the easiest way out that I could.
At the last minute I decided not to go through with it, mostly because my girlfriend at the time knew what I was up to and wouldn’t leave until the feeling went away.
I was too scared of surviving and having an even worse life than I thought I already had.
I still loved my parents at this time. I loved my friends. I loved my girlfriend probably more than anyone because I had become so codependent on her.
But none of this mattered because the mental anguish of depression had combined with circumstance to become overwhelming. I was beyond wishing for death—I was seeking it.
On my second suicide attempt, I took a dosage of a medication I knew would be enough to kill me. At this point, I didn’t even care if I failed—It was time to go.
Fortunately I failed. I’ve always wondered if there’s a version of me in a parallel universe who succeeded. It makes me hope that parallel universes don’t exist.
The difference between the time when I just wanted to die and my two suicide attempts is that I had a plan for the attempts.
I knew how I was going to do it, when I was going to do it, and where I was going to do it.
That’s the big difference between wanting to die and being suicidal—the plan.
It Gets Better
I’m so glad I failed because life eventually did get better, but only through therapy, medication, and not giving up on treatment.
With therapy and treatment, depression can be lifted, but there are definitely people for whom it takes significant work. Treatment-resistant depression is very much a thing, so you shouldn’t feel bad about yourself if you’ve tried a bunch of antidepressants, and they haven’t worked.
I’ve seen some people get really good results from ketamine therapy. I know others who have had success from electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). Sometimes, it takes something far beyond anti-depressants to really get better, and most people need to combine these things with therapy.
It took me 20 years to find the right medication for me. The fact that I survived that long is a miracle. Not everyone makes it.
It’s worth sticking it out though. I hope you can remember a time when life was good, when you were happy. I always wanted to return to my childhood. Even though I was rarely happy then, there were moments where things were good.
Remember those moments. You can get there again.
I know it’s exhausting. I know it sounds awful and impossible.
I know it hurts.
Keep trying. Change medications. Change doses. Change doctors. Try the things that work better for treatment resistant depression. Try whatever it takes to get back to those times.
Because life can feel like that again.
I promise.
It’s worth it.
Hey Adam,
My name is David and I’m currently 20 years old. I’ve dealt with severe depression for years now, and have reached the point where I just feel empty. Like you, I have had unsuccessful suicide attempts, and cannot just put a bullet in my head to end my life. But every thing has become so mundane. Long gone is enjoyment in any activity I do. No longer do I feel a sense of purpose, no matter what steps I take to find one. I want my life to end, but cannot take the measures to do so myself. And I think the worst part about it is that I no longer care. The value of life has diminished significantly, and I am unsure how to get that back, or why It should even be a goal. If you have any advice it would be greatly appreciated.
Also, I want to clarify that I understand that things will get better. That eventually life will turn back around and that I should want to look forward to that. How do you manage to hold onto this though? When you no longer wish to exist, how do you find solace in that ideology?
Thank you so much for writing this article and impacting others with your touching story. I hope you are doing well.
Hey David, thanks for commenting. I can tell you that I honestly don’t know how to hang on that idea that life will get better. In the moment, it seems impossible sometimes. I’m currently struggling again. I know that things will get better, but it doesn’t seem that way today. I think what keeps me going is stuff like this. Trying to help other people. Your comment lifted me up today because it reminded me that I’m not alone, that at least we are all suffering in this thing together. It also helps me to stay close to my psychiatrist and make sure I’m taking my meds the way I’m supposed to, but that can only go so far. I just try to get through each day and hope that the next day will get a little better.
Man all I can say is keep your head up i love you all of you we got this 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I am so grateful to hear your truth. This struggle is real. And its so nice to hear I’m not alone. I recently started to take drugs to make the voices stop and to quit praying for death. But perhaps there’s a better way
Ive lived 30 years of this. I cant sleep i cant eat without feeling sick, i cant go see a doctor because ive seen a zillion and i feel sock just thinking of seeing one they have never helped.amd only made it worse by lumping people together. I love to live i am a very compassionate person which is why this hirts even worse im a 30 yr pld male. And i hope a plane hits my house. For me its a long term problem for an excruciating and long problem. Fuckk the Australian government.
iv found something that’s incredibly interesting, i think like minded people should try. its not what you think its going to be no matter how much you think you know about it. nn DMT. make it or buy it. hope this helps some one.
My name is Daniel. I’m 36. Outwardly, I am like to think I portray the epitome of fun, humour, empathy. I am not shy about my struggle with depression, adhd and mental health issues in general. I work in a context that necessitates that I play the role of the entertainer. With regards to my family, I play the role of the saviour.
The one who fixes things. I am the youngest of my siblings. My father was gone long before he died. My mother was crippled when I was born. My sister is slowly dying from a degenerative neurological disease. My brother (the eldest in the family) has lost his mind and has spiralled into incoherence. I have a niece and three nephews. I am the only one who has a career at this point, I have a graduate level education. I have not met my goals, nor those of my family. That being said, I am the one in my family for whom all hopes rest upon.
My life has become a combination of a lie and obligation. All I want is to make everyone feel better. To enable them in their pursuits. At the same time, I have exerted all my energy toward enabling the realization of my own pursuits. In so doing, I have accomplished none of that. I have done nothing, beyond floundering between self indulgence and self sacrifice.
I have yet to meet anyone’s expectations, nor my own. That being said, I have moved mountains to do the things I have done. I achieved a graduate level education after dropping out of high school after being kicked out of my home as a teen. I have sustained my own existence for nearly 20 years, independent of my family, while supporting my family at every step of my life- physically, monetarily, emotionally.
I feel like I am dying. I can only keep going forward, for my family and myself. But I am done. They don’t know it, but I am going to die doing this. I don’t know what else to say here, or why I am saying it. I hope my heart stops before I have to deal with the loss of losing my family. Because I am done. Absolutely done. I am so fucking tired.
The worst part is, I haven’t even lived for myself, or for them. Life has been this weird, futile mix of never satisfying myself or anyone else. I try to be the person everyone can count on, and I fail. I try to make myself happy and fulfilled, and I fail.
I’m done with this shitty game at this point. I didn’t ask to be locked in this meat prison. That being said, I won’t stop until my body gives out. As long as one person in this world loves me, I can’t make that jump. It would be selfish and shitty. Until then, I will keep trying to make people around me feel better. And keep tumbling in this gratuitous cycle of self destructive indulgence.
I’m really good at helping other people. And I can’t stop hurting myself as a means of somehow feeling better.
Thanks for providing a place for me to put these thoughts in writing. I needed this.
I was just about to shut down this website when you made this comment. I’ll probably keep it going a little longer. Thanks for reminding me why I do this.
Thank you for keeping this board up. My girlfriend has been struggling with depression since childhood, and I’m finding it hard to help her. This is giving me some much-needed motivation and insight. I try to be there for her, but it’s challenging because she often hides her feelings, retreats from the world, and sometimes curls up in frustration, even banging her head.
I’ve battled depression myself and have had moments where I considered ending it all, but I’m glad I didn’t. I’ve since found joy in exploring the beauty of life, and in helping others, even if it’s just one hug at a time. But it’s still tough—there are days when I feel like I’m not making a difference, like I’m worthless. Yet, I keep pushing forward, wanting to be there for others when I can.
My girlfriend’s situation is much worse. She lost her parents and has no supportive family, no money, just stress, and companies trying to drain us financially. I want to help her break free from this cycle of depression, but all I know to do is be there for her, holding her as she shakes and cries under the sheets. She tried professional help and medication, but neither seemed to work well. I encourage her to meditate, practice self-care, and get involved in activities like taekwondo, but so far, nothing has worked as well as I hoped. Her mind seems stuck on how painful life is.
If you have any tips or ideas that could help, I’d love to learn. I want to make her, and anyone else reading this, feel more confident, comfortable, and happier.
I rewrote this probably about 3 times looking for the right words so I’m gonna be blunt.
In my opinion my life sucks nothing about it makes me happy there will be moments when i laugh at a joke or get somewhat excited about a gift but nothing hits the same anymore its that feeling of emptiness. I just don’t want to be conscious I want to skip the whole process of life and see where I end up I’m not suicidal and I hope I don’t ever get to a point that dark but sometimes I just don’t want to live any longer I just want everything to face away and not know that it has faded.
Mate, I’m 57 and I’ve been struggling since I was a teen, just got diagnosed with ADHD. It has turned my world upside down looking back how my life was.
I guess what I am trying to say is, look how old I am, I’m still here but I struggle sometimes everyday. I should be 1 of the happiest people around, I have no debt own everything outright. My home my cars, I have a 3 minute walk to work, great pay, great benefits, and great pension plan. Yet I am so unhappy and there are days I wake up pissed off cause I am still alive.
If you ever need an old fart to talk to I’ve got a good ear for listening, and understanding where you’re coming from. mikelewis966@gmail.com cheers mate🥃
I’m hearing you I got diagnosed adhd couple years back I’m 53. I have lots of things I have with this. Major depression is one of them. We live a roller coaster and I battle everyday now. Yes awareness helps but I feel like the demons on the roller coaster are trying to destroy me.
I am literally struggling my step-mother hates me and i want to leave so i can be alone but i am only 14 my birth mom gave up on me and gave her rights to my dad i really miss her and my old life but I told about the abuse so i would try for the pain to go away it didn’t it followed me it will never go away i have depression,Ptsd,anxiety and i feel like I can’t control it and it’s making me hate myself I have no friends and no one there for me I just don’t know what to do anymore I pretend to be happy but that’s far from the truth
SAME!!!!
I don’t have a reason to feel the way I do. I have kids and a wife. My relationships with them are good. I don’t have any trauma that I can think of. I just don’t want to wake up. The darkness of true nothing sounds soo peaceful. I just want to be normal, happy even.
I feel empty.
I’m in the same boat. I have a good life but I’ve become a real asshole because I hate everyone and everything. I feel like life is pointless and is just full of pain and disappointment. Not sure what to do.
Ben we need to be patient. My 90 year old non English speaking migrant mother would say that frequently and I thought nothing of it, infact I thought she was a simpleton. Decades later, im only starting to mindfully practice patience in the moments that would normally induce reaction. We dont know if its ‘time’; time to be taken away or time to go away, time to respond or time to act nonchalant. I try to let 10 seconds pass, then 10 minutes, then 10 hours, then 10 days, then 10 years pass etc in PATIENCE. Suddenly what or who was important will be dulled if not forgotten.
Existentialism?
I don’t want to exist, but I also don’t want to kill myself. I just don’t want to cause other people any problems doing so. Although I sometimes feel like I don’t exist in other people lives. They just don’t seem to remember me being there at all. Not giving any thoughts to what I may need or how I may feel about something. Even though they seeks other people opinions.
That steers me towards: Then why be at all? No one else seems to care, so why should I?
To me not existing means that no one will remember me. Everything I have ever done wouldn’t have happened. Meaning it wouldn’t hurt anyone else.
What worries me is that death seems the closest answer to not exist.
The feeling of emptiness and purposeless of life.
Not being able to enjoy myself, even though I now live quite an ok life. There’s really nothing bad about my life. I’m seemingly just missing emotions. The ability to feel happy. Everything I do has no real meaning or purpose. I don’t feel like doing something just for the sake of doing something.
I’m desperately seeking for that something in life that can give me some meaning.
Every question I have has too many answers. Every answer is always somewhat right. But the answers clash with one another, making them somewhat wrong as well. So I can never be really certain about the answers I give to questions. If someone asks about something then there are infinite answers. And they might as well all be correct. This makes me tend to over elaborate on many things, as every situation has too many different factors to comprehend them all. And that thought makes me feel like I can never give a good or right answer. Theoretically there should be a perfect answer to that specific situation. The human brain just can’t handle all the information that there is. We cannot know everything. If we did we could give the perfect answer, but then again then we wouldn’t need to give an answer. If we knew everything the question wouldn’t exist in the first place.
Life feels like Limbo, uncertainty everywhere. And my brain just cant fathom such a “life”.
For now I’ll keep on ticking away my life, one moment at a time.
i feel exactly the same way ahaha
Everything you said gave my spine and arms a tingling sensation bc I feel exactly the same regarding existence, particularly that one’s existence is constantly being measured by not who you are but what you’ve done like any of it matters. It’s so painful to be so aware of how there’s no point, no reason, no long lasting feeling of peace in this existence (mine). Yet being told to be positive only further proves my point that much more — humans are full of bs were all seeking something that benefits ourselves, first and foremost so saying be positive is just a reflection of what you ideally want to think or wish to do in your own life and that’s to be positive when there are very few events in life for some at least that can be viewed as positive. Such a privileged statement yet the ignorance of it I can’t help but think is blissful and thus enviable
Hey guys, was just kind of feeling hopeless today. I’ve never been interested in death myself. My feelings of not wanting to exist stems from my religious views. I’m not suicidal at all, but existence as a whole just seems painful and i’m just not happy with so many aspects of myself yet. I want to hope it gets better and that i’m slowly progressing.
It helps a lot to know I’m not the only one who feels this way, so thank you.
Jacob
What about people who have no one to mourn them if they die?
Dreams/sleeping is not an escape for me….my dreams are almost always horrific nightmares….so I don’t like sleeping. I thought about death and put myself in harms way many times until something happened and I was shown (multiple times) what life is after death (yea I can see your face right now, you think im a nut, but you will see what I mean)…and honestly, it made me even more depressed. It isn’t God or Satan waiting for us….it’s something that makes our life here feel all the more pointless and raises more questions than answers….but regardless of that, my depression is caused mostly because of my past and the actions I took in it. I can not take back the things that I did so I will never be free from my depression, doomed to exist in perpetual suffering in this life and probably the same in the next to be honest.
i dont want to die but im too afraid to live
Hi my name is Susan and I always feel like I want to not exist. I have Major Depression and it seems like I have had it forever even when I was a small child but now I am much older and it seems like it is deeper, darker and way more intense. I was raised if you commit suicide you go to hell but sometimes I already feel like I am in hell and if I just keep living in the end hopefully I will go to heaven. Sometimes I feel so numb and empty that I just want to disappear and stay that way till either I die or Jesus comes and saves me, I know it sounds crazy but it is true. People and I mean people drive me insane I wished an alien would abduct me and take me to another planet, I see people talk about it and I think where were you and how did you get so lucky? I wished they would come and get me. Sometimes I feel like I am the sane one and everyone around me is crazy and I have to take medication just to cope with people. I have never been addicted to anything in my life so I know it isn’t drugs or alcohol that makes me this way. One more thing depression makes me sick psychically sick, like stomach or headache do other people feel psychically sick or is it just me? Sorry to dump my thoughts here but I googled and it came up so I read on and thought I would comment. No I am not suicidal I just don’t want to exist.
I’m so sorry you’re suffering. I wish I could help. I hope an answer comes to you.
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Take landmark education and let me know how it goes.
I thought I was the only one who got physically sick from depression
I feel your pain, and I will be next. God made my life bad right from the start. He makes me a dam crippled. he could have let me die then. Then when I do find a wife, he kills her off. All he has to do is kill me. I don’t give a shit where I end up. I’m already in hell. Right now, I have stopped eating. I know I will only live for 52 more days. He can watch me suffer. God, you can go to hell!
Are you OK? I felt the pain in your words and saw that it was only 11 days ago. I’ve had two spinal surgeries that have been life changing….so not the same but relatable.
Sometimes words aren’t enough in reply….except to acknowledge that you are heard.
you are wrong
Wow you all sound like me, I just see no point anymore. Same old same old and I am just tired of the game. I would prefer to just sleep and not wake up, seems easier I guess. I just get very little enjoyment out of life anymore, but I don’t have a bad life. I have a great husband, two grown boys out in the world, a grandbaby. I am just uninterested in life, it is strange, I have never felt this way really, I have always had drive and ambition but for some reason it’s gone and I just want to stay in bed.
All of us that have the ability to ponder this ‘question’ have great mental ability to think of the other side of our conclusions as well.
I hate being me, I hate being conscious, I hate thinking of all the perspectives that I have learned, I hate that I can hate these things. All these ‘things’ are human things, and I wish my consciousness didn’t exist inside a human atmosphere.
Would we be able to express these words if we didn’t have the human brains and human thoughts and human knowledge and human mind and consciousness, even human thumbs to text this on this blog? No. The answer is NO. Everything we are experiencing is a human experience, and I believe that people like us do not exist inside the human idea.
How is that possible based on what I just said? Idk
This is why I don’t want to exist, because this thought process and this expression of how my unphysical mind works, doesn’t seem to mesh with how the physical human that I am, works. Does this make any sense ??
Who am i without my physical self, yet who am I with this mind trapped inside my physical self….??
I do not want to exist this way. I want to release into pure energy. I want to absorb into the wave lengths of light. I want to expel the taken energy if have procured from this world and become back being one with the balance of the universe. I do not want to think, feel, see, hear, understand, dream, or have any of the neuro connections I have that make it even possible that I can type these words as words from thoughts from my mind…
Existence? No, I just want to be… other than what I am now…
‘Why’ is the answer.
Because you can ask ‘why’ you have the purpose to always ask it and always seek the next conclusion that starts over with ‘why’. It never ends, but that may be your journey. To give the ‘why’ energy back to the world
So why is it then that when I’m in the dark, with an awful feeling in my gut and all I want to do is die, there’s no response? There’s nothing from your god. Just silence. Just more empty. I’m left with two possibilities. First, and less personal, there is no god. Or second, I’m just not worth the trouble.
Same
I have wanted to die for so long and twelve steps makes me want to die even more and there’s no way I’m going near medical treatment again.
I missed my life and my profession by being with an insane women who smelled nice. She hated me she hated my life my profession and I had no friends besides my relationship with her I left my life as a healer as a father with two beautiful children to be with this self absorbed bitch who once wrote a 120 page diary to do nothing but complain about me. When I found it she told me to discount it because it depepucted only how she really felt. I’m 64 I have no career. I have two beautiful children and 5 extrodinary grandchildren I rarely see. My little angel Juniper my little grandaughter has stolen my heart and moved to Costa Rica. I can’t take much more. I wish I had the courage and the firepower to end it all. I can’t practice I’m been diagnosed bipolar. Meds don’t seem to help. I’m lonely. I’ve had it.
I’m terrified to be in life and I’m terrified to die. I’m suffering everyday even though I’m on 4 different pills. I’ve tried different pills for 20yrs. Is there any other way to get to blissful Heaven to be with my family without going through death? I can’t take it anymore
Totally agree. Didn’t ask to be here and wtf is the point? Living stressed out about work, money, relationships when it’s all going to end anyway. Why go through the stress just to get by? Just so over everything.
I don’t want to exist either. I always be “mad” about it. I used to get really angry about it. Hate my parents for having me, hate God, hate sex itself as a hypocrite for the consequence of it. THAT pleasant yet pleasing fuck all has you do this to someone?
That is to say of sex you like the heroin but you hate the addiction, or you enjoy the ice cream but you find yourself lactose intolerant in the after math. You come to a conclusion to where you hate all comfort all together because you’ve learned the thorns of “comfort seeking”. Almost like a mouse getting electrocuted when he goes after a block of cheese. He likes the cheese, but there is a limit to how much he dislikes being shocked.
Consideration took the anger and hate from me but it hasn’t worked any magic on me about the base feeling.
Like of God, I could wish there was no God or I didn’t believe in the least way. I do believe and I also believe I know jack shit of that and am not drawn in to trust the least to what another believes on that.
Wouldn’t matter my crosshairs would readjust to scapegoat in comfort seeking by having something to blame would land elsewhere (parents,sex, it doesn’t matter)
But let’s say he did, and I do believe. Well consideration ruins it for me when met with silence. Because I would imagine a creator who was at a time alone the only show in town so to say and created everything to know something of loneliness. So if it said you have meaning to me it’s why you exist, then for me to ask or demand my non existence that don’t sit right in me because I am willing to consider it. 2 wrongs don’t make a right you know, if I’m out it doesn’t mean I didn’t leave a wound. I’m over the violent/selfish part of it, my desire to wound “revenge” is equal to my desire to be, quite absent.
However with the question open, that is to say why it’s quite presumptious to assume it gives a damn about you. Maybe it instead says, and reinforced with a great silence and silence has a way of speaking for itself…. You don’t have meaning you’re basically pottery I got plenty of it fuck you, fuck the nerve of you I don’t consider piss and shit about little old you. You’re small I’m big, I don’t talk because what you hear and experience is beneath my consideration you little shit bug.
Then I’d have comfort at least of saying well now I don’t feel bad not wanting to exist, I’m nothing to it. You just don’t wound what doesn’t consider you. You can now have what you want, death- in the truest sense, nonbeing.
But with it open, and only the silence to fill and speak for itself, or allows others and yourself to imagine within it, there is not heads or tails to be made of anything and all you are left able to do is not lie about how you feel.
I don’t want to exist * open discussion on what others want, but the heart is most certainly half stone even if it isn’t being cast at anyone wishing them ill.
You’re up against a heavy bias and a lifetime of silence any care shown in any future moment will be fighting the pasts silent army. Where God or whoever didn’t speak, their silence spoke constantly in their stead.
It’s not unforgivable, it’s not impossible to consider, but it’s not going to cause me to fake a fucking smile and lie and say I want life, and more of it. I want sleep, the big one, and I don’t ever want to woken up. It’s on the waking I have to wrestle keeping madness from becoming anger and hate to whoever took that peace away from me. Life isn’t peace, I don’t think it ill to wish for peace, even if death becomes the hope that life simply has disqualified itself to be.
I totally get this! SInce 2nd grade in primary Sunday school when I learned what heaven was my first comment to the class was – “well what if I kill myself can I get there faster” I did not even have any understanding or death or suicide.
The best way for me to describe major depression to someone is “no matter how good or bad things are going, you would still rather not be alive”
ahahaha guess who genuinely just doesn’t want to exist but doesn’t want to die bc everyone i know would miss me??? it’s me. it’s- it’s me. i’m not mentally stable ahahaha
AND to be clear I have been on this SHIT BALL for over 40 years. I have seen and experienced the deterioration of LIFE. “THEY” want you to think that rationing your water and fuel is required to sustain life…..YOU STUPID FUXS
I’ve wished not to exist since I hit the age of reason. There’s nothing wrong with believing we’d all be better off if existence stopped existing. Even when I’m happy, I don’t want to be a human, I want to be part of a star. Being human is bullshit
Adam, I really want to thank you for posting this. I am 16 and have been dealing with depression for 6 years now. I never talked to anyone about my issues and tried to act as happy as I could but on the inside, I was never happy besides when I smoked weed or drank. I was recently caught with weed at school which just made me spiral more. I always felt as though there was nothing good in this world even from a young age. I never wanted to exist and at many points I went through all of these stages up to the point where I tried to commit suicide 6 times but every time I either failed or my dog which was the only thing that I loved in this world stopped me. I felt like nothing had any purpose and that I was really all alone in this world but seeing you and the people in this comment section share the exact same feelings that I had made me realize that there are so many people out there like me and that it will eventually come to pass. Reading this has truly helped me and I’m going to try my best to get over this awful thing happening in my psyche. I want to let you all know that you have truly helped people and that you all mean the world to me as my savors. Thank you and I promise to update you all when I get better and I hope you all will do the same. Thank you all and please feel free to talk about your lives in the reply section of my comment. Thank you all.
I’m glad to hear this helped you man. I hope it gets better for you. It has for me, just took some time.
I have wanted, on and off, to not exist since I was about 9 years old. It isn’t a constant, but it is regular.
Had a good career, have a wife and an almost adult teenager who I love, but I often wake in the middle of the night, wishing there was a button I could push to end my existence, with no pain for myself or for those around me.
I have retired, work pressure is reduced, and yet I still wake at nights, or after minor emotional turmoil and wish to end my existence. I don’t want counseling, I don’t want a help line, I just want off this ride.
I am so tortured by the past and terrified of the future that I cannot enjoy the present.
I don’t think anyone would care if I stopped existing suddenly. And I’m not sure if its my depression saying this. I do believe people won’t care really and why should they?
You’re so fortunate to have children:
Don’t you want to see their families?
I wish I had children or a family’s. I am all alone. Please please be there for them.
Can I join? This is exactly how I feel. And need some help
Anyone can join. It’s free to all.
Hi, how do you help someone that feels like this?
Hi, I feel like an empty shell. I may exist, but existing ain’t living. I’ve felt unwanted, irrelevant, invisible all my life. Was and am bullied. Pretty sad, I’m 45 now. I’ve tried to many times to go, none worked, so I save my energy to exist another day. I’ve got no true friends, homeless, no job, no food, no nothing. But yet I hang on to faith and hope, in a world so dark, so very lonely, hoping for a better tomorrow that will probably never come. Anyways, that’s all. Thank u.
Finally someone I can relate to.
I am 54 years old and I have been dealing with depression for about 15 years after I got sober off of drugs. There has been a bunch of ups and downs but now I am on the biggest down wards spiral of my life. I do not have one family member I do not have any friends. I was involved in a relationship where I fell head over heels for a woman and I was heartbroken and I got rid of all my friends because of her. Anyways I have lost everything I have a job that thoroughly sucks I hate I’m not making any money my car broke down . Now being 54 with no car I can’t get a job anyplace else because I’m going to have to travel for a job and I can’t go anywhere. This instant might seem trivial but there’s a lot more stuff that has happened to me in the past that this one is just the topping of the cake to where I just don’t think I can survive anymore.
I thoroughly am devastated I do nothing but cry everyday like I’m doing right now as I’m typing this and I am scared because I will not be able to turn this around this time and who knows what might happen.. if anybody has anything to say about this or would like to talk because I am not doing well my email is anthony92691@gmail
I understand and I am sorry
I understand some not all the stuff you been through.. I have no kids never married, have no friends, and Noone in my family… I also feel useless
Ok so I wish I didn’t exist but I do dream and I remember my dreams and they all have the same general theme, everyone else passes and moves on to whatever is next but I never do. I end up just repeating the dream again and again or I quit. So I have no peace when I sleep
I just want to stop feeling like Im going to spontaneously combust and I want it to stop now . I am impulsive and Im afraid of my lack of control .
This is an eye opener for me. I have never related to so much. Thank you. You are helping.
yea I agree life sucks, I don’t know if it’s depression or anger issues but whenever I’m angry at someone I’ll want to like idk like push them off a cliff, I kind of lose control of my emotions then I’ll regret what I felt and want to like to shrivel up and die sometimes I’ll cry like so much it’s crazy and I’m only 11 (not hormones don’t be weird) but like it’s concerning I’ve fantasized my death and how much peace and relief I would feel because of it I don’t have the gut to kill myself but honestly I have considered but possibly won’t harm myself.
Finn?
was this written by a bot?
No, I wrote it…
yes so far the beginning of this article I can totally relate, I some how lost the only woman I have truly ever felt In Love with and my step daughter and a 20year friendship to be dumped and forgotten ( not sure really why, such a weird break up..literally was left in the dark until the day she left) for the last 3 years been dealing with this mind set..the first 8months (48yrs old) I for the1st time in my life was in Major suicidal depression..I literally came home from work everyday and put a loaded gun in my mouth or to my temple everyday for hours sat here in tears, screaming ,crying, finger on the trigger so much pain..the last 2 1/2 or so years been truly putting in work to find mental happiness and clarity, I feel worthless, unseen, unheard, I am alone , I have no family ( yes of course I have lots of friends, and family out of state) but I have no one of my own..no wife, no children, and the “family” I do have are not close or supportive…I have no immediate support and at 50 years old I did not see my life turning out this way and I have been through a lot..I started my adult life on my own at 17 and I have accomplished and done so many great things in life..I seriously thought I had finally found the happiness and stability with my wife and little girl..her family loved me and I loved them..my wife was awesome and my step daughter was amazing..until one day it all vanished.now I sit here after thousands of dollars of therapy, and meditation classes, retreats, books, support groups , blah blah, and today I sit here in my house , never physically been healthier, my diet is amazing, my work is great, money, shelter, food, health, fitness, I have everything I need and a lot of what I want..I am very grateful for everything too..so grateful, but I am alone..I have no family, and I dont really see a reason for living a great life if not to share it and grow with someone..nothing is exciting, I can’t seem to get behind that I alone am worth living in greatness..I want to, trust me I really want the motivation..but I can not get past the trigger and pain of being with out my lover, I have never in my adult life ever been single for this long and it doesn’t make sense..I have more going for me now than I ever have my entire life..and I have worked so hard in therapy to create this life and be happy for myself..and I just can’t seem to truly find happiness or the motivation to truly get out and tackle life in a FUN way..I have always been physically healthy, and excited about life, always had great women in my life, friends, always positive and still am positive and push positive energy daily in my life and the people around, I am very self aware and I Love helping people in so many ways, and yet,, I can’t find my mental happiness and hold on to it, I dislike that I have been single for 3years and feel unseen, unloved intimately, I feel so unhappy and isolated, even though I do have family and lots of friends that love and support me in their own way..I go days sometimes weeks ( if I do not initiate) with out hearing from anyone except work..the irony if I was to say have a heart attack or major injury,,no one (friends or outside family) would find me for days…my work would be the 1st to have a concern..thats feels like shit to be that alone in this world..I dont want to kill myself..I just do not want to live I dont care im tired of feeling so much pain..I feel
so much like a failure in life, and Im tired..my only saving grace is keeping so busy..or sleep, when I relax and try to be in the moment..I am reminded how alone I am how I have this feeling of failure as a Man, A Man with nothing , no wife, no Lover, no kids, nothing but me to rely on me..and I am choosing to be happy but find it difficult to truly be happy. whats the point of being successful and great, if its alone??? after all the trials and tribulations and tragedy in my Life..I never in a million years would have guessed that losing a woman would be the reason for my struggle..Ive been homeless, ive been abandoned,ive been poor and starving, ive seen friends and family die from violence and natural causes, ive been in jail, ive been fired, ive lost jobs , been ripped off , been dumped and loved and lost love many times..and through all the journeys and travels and experience I should be bullet proof to pain and misery, ( I didnt even get into the child hood trauma I overcame) and one woman..3years later still haunts me, and I feel so alone and just want to not be here anymore..god speed people
another note I resonated with, depending of perception..I personally think it takes a lot of courage to kill yourself sober..my thing I finally and sometime gratefully came to terms with , it would be selfish to kill myself here and leave this mess to clean up and deal with the house, and bills, and furniture(estate) all this stuff im leaving behind..so I decided if I was going to do it..I was clearing all my liabilities up..all my property and things were going to be liquidated..if I used a gun I would do it outside my paid off vehicle and I would need to figure out a way to safety net the gun so no one could take it after I die..the only thing to do would be for a family member to identify the body..all of my bills and stuff would need to be handled..even funeral arrangements..thats the unselfish way at least..I eventually decided I can push through I can let this woman that I trusted more than anything or anyone in my entire life decide my outcome, I can’t give her this power, It won’t bring her back it won’t make her love me , shit it would not even hurt her..which is what I really wanted at the time..she didnt even care..she wouldn’t of even known ,so wow..she really wins if I dont figure out a way to win..and ive been working on winning ever since..but im still fighting a major up hill battle..I just can’t seem to get to where I was in life before she came around..it really has been a major hurdle in life.
I think people like this on this chat page are very special people that don’t belong here on this planet because they are not from here. They must go within and find their true tribe of creatures. we are LOVE on a planet that has no real understanding of what this is. So of course we will feel alone, misunderstood. A planet that no matter how much good you try to put forth will never be acknowledged until your physicality is over. its the jealousy and competition of this world that makes humans be afraid to acknowledge and love someone because everything is just a fraud and illusion. Nothing here last forever. I have had plenty of money and I have lived on the streets and the feeling is the same no matter what state you live in. I think you all are hurting because your real life and family is on another planet not here on earth. My escape is in my sleep too. I have been rejected by my earthly connections once I lost all my material possessions and had nothing materially to give them anymore. Before that I gave and gave and gave, had parties and counseled humans and encouraged them to live and be happy. Now, The only reason anyone wants me around is to use and/or exploit my energetic frequency. There is no authentic love to be found anywhere. But I am not suicidal nor really depressed. Just feel I have no inspiration anymore; no purpose to be here. Even though so many want my energy its just to take from me. what little is left to take. Any inspiration I have is not of this world. Its something better but yet no one understands or even cares. They look at you like you are an alien. Maybe that is what we all are. I’m ready to go Home.
this world in my mind i want to let it blow-up and end this damn life
I have come 2 learn that if we don’t truly love ourselves we will never find peace & happiness. It is because we have been programmed that to b worth anything we need the validation of others. This is a lie. The only validation we need is the one we give to ourselves. And we can only get that validation by unconditionally loving ourself. I found you can only get there through self healing. Because we have been taught and programmed so many lies. We have many inner wounds from childhood. Those r the years that shaped us and our future. Having to live up to someone’s expectations or feel guilty. It’s a process of learning to walk away from what no longer makes u happy. It’s the the Journey out of the Matrix. Gaining control over your toxic thought patterns & still loving yourself when u fail. I found I would rather do the healing than kiss someone else’s ass in hopes I’ll be accepted by someone who really doesn’t care about me. I’ve learned to give myself the Love that no one else could give me. That is liberating! We R Stronger that U Realize. AHO🖖🏼🤸🏻♀️💖🤸🏻♀️💖👽👽👽👽👽
My ex partner and mother are dead
I don’t want to ever wake up again
I’m 56 too old no point in being here
I feel your pain, and I will be next. God fucked up my life right from the start. He makes me a dam crippled. he could have let me die then. Then when I do find a wife, he kills her off. All he has to do is kill me. I don’t give a shit where I end up. I’m already in hell. Right now, I have stopped eating, Maybe God will do something, I know I will only live for 52 more days. He can watch me suffer. God, you can go to hell!
What I wouldn’t give to be in my 20’s again. Instead I live with pain everyday of my life. I’ve had a double fusion of my lower spine and a host of other chronic illnesses that don’t mean a damn thing to me, because if I ignore them, maybe I can leave this cursed planet sooner than I would have if I was healthy. That being said…….I work daily, have 2 hysterical German Shepards and manage to get by everyday. I have Diabetes, which I refuse to take medicine for, because, damn, I don’t NEED to be here till I’m a 100 years old so I can work till I’m too damn broken to enjoy any modicam of a life. I’m a lot closer to 60 than I am 50 so my outlook may be different than the younger generation. I know it’s a never ending cycle that people like us cannot escape as much as we’d like to. I will say this though…………know your limits, don’t be afraid to exercise them. You are You, and no one should get to run your life but You.
Here’s the thing for me. Robin Williams had the right idea!
He realized that the thing or things that brought him joy and comfort and discomfort in the world, were all about to disappear. Beyond the people in his life that he loved, he would have to reside on an inferior level to his true love, to perform and make people laugh.
No one can live in another persons skin. I have had extreme physical challenges through out my life, and have cheated death more than once, which I over came with relative ease. People felt bad for me and tried to motivate me but the thing they didn’t know, was I was highly motivated and didn’t feel bad for me at all.
When a person realizes that it’s your life and your life alone, they will stop living their life by societal morals and judgements.
My father lived to be the ripe old age of 93. the only thing that kept him going was that he wanted to see how far he could go. (the competitive old bastard).
When profound meaning leaves my life I hope I have the courage to move on to another plain.(I don’t want to be like my dad}
After all, death is part of life.
Why can’t I just find a way to end my life