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The 12 steps without god — can it be done? It’s a question I’ve asked myself on numerous occasions, the main reason for which is that I don’t believe in god.
And yet I work the 12 steps.
And yet I stay sober.
What does that mean?
Here’s what I want you to remember—god is defined in a specific way in the 12 steps:
A power greater than ourselves.
Keep that in mind as we talk through this.
Here’s how I work the 12 steps without god, and here’s what that means to me.
The 12 Steps Without God — How I Do It
First of all, it’s important to define “god” before I can explain how I work the 12 steps without god.
To me, god is a deity, which is to say a being of some sort. Most religions look at god this way. In most religions, god is absolutely good and absolutely powerful.
Now it’s important to note that there are plenty of religions that have many gods. Those gods are not all powerful, that are not always good, or that aren’t good at all. In those religions, gods seem to act just like humans (only very powerful ones).
Those ideas of god I reject. This is just my opinion, but I don’t think there are any beings out there that would fit the definitions of gods.
Am I right or wrong? There’s no way to say. That’s just my belief.
So, how do I work the 12 steps? I focus on the wording of the steps.
Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
I don’t believe in a god of any sort, but I do believe in a power greater than myself.
And here’s where things get dicey.
For all I know, that power is me.
How Do I Know What This Power Is?
I gotta be honest—I envy people who are able to define their higher power, who know the moment you ask them what God is, who God is to them, why their God has a capital G, what books are associated with their God, etc.
It just seems like such a simple, easy answer to the god problem.
For me, it’s just never been that simple. I’ve never had proof that the god of any religion exists.
That being said, I have had proof of something otherworldly and powerful working in my life.
Here’s what I can say about my higher power:
- It exists
- It keeps me sober as long as I work the 12 steps and don’t hurt people
- It may or may not be some internal power of my own
That last one I am not sure of at all.
Mostly, my higher power is a mystery.
How do I know that it exists in the first place?
Because I am sober, and have been for years, and this is a miracle.
If a miracle is something impossible that is nevertheless true, then me being sober is a miracle.
At the age of 17, I started using drugs and drinking, and I didn’t stop for a single day until the age of 26.
Wait, that’s not quite right. I had a three day period somewhere in my early twenties where I was so dopesick that I couldn’t get out of bed to get the drugs I needed to get high.
As soon as I could move, I got high.
That’s how heavy my addiction was.
When I got sober in 2011, all I could think about was getting high. I was confined in a rehab that I couldn’t leave. I wanted to get high more than anything.
I was terrified of getting high again.
So I got a sponsor, and I worked the 12 steps, and something strange happened.
I stayed sober.
That, to me, is miraculous.
All That Matters Is That You Try
I don’t think what keeps me sober is god, not the way people define god.
I just can’t believe in an all powerful, all good god. The world that we live in doesn’t look very good. It’s hard for me to believe that a being that’s all good and has the power to fix things wouldn’t do so.
Other religions make about as much sense. I’ve never seen evidence of any sort to show much that there’s a true “higher power” that rules over the entire world.
The best way I can describe my higher power is that it’s literally like electricity—it’s some force that I’ve tapped into, somehow, that’s keeping me sober.
I say tapped into because, before, I tried and tried to stay sober on my own and couldn’t. I suppose it’s possible that somehow I overcame whatever the problem was before and got sober on my own willpower, but it doesn’t feel that way.
It feels like something else did it.
What is that something else?
For me, it’s not god.
I can tell you that I approached the 12 steps the same way I approached getting high.
I didn’t care how it worked.
I cared that it worked.
I never researched drugs deeply before I did them—I just did them, and they worked, and that was good enough for me.
It’s the same with the 12 steps.
I just did them, and I let the higher power problem sort itself out.
Which it has.
It’s fully possible that my higher power is some kind of god or something, but if it is, I’ll never know.
All I know is that I work the 12 steps, and something causes a miracle to occur—I stay sober.
The 12 Steps Can Work Without God
If you don’t believe in god, but you need to get sober, try the 12 steps.
What can it hurt?
What do you have to lose?
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